10 Awesome Things You Should Know About Being A Bridesmaid
Being a bridesmaid is a huge, colossal honor that brides bestow on their best friends, family, and loved ones. Having just been apart of my 5th wedding, I wanted to share some tips and tricks I’ve learned along the way.
1. You’ll read that it’s pricey…
…and it is. On average, you’ll probably spend about $1,000 per wedding. That number may increase depending on travel expenses for parties and the actual wedding, price of the dress, budget for parties, etc.
However, being a bridesmaid lasts throughout the couple’s engagement…so it’s not like you’re dropping $1,000 all in one fell swoop. Between the bridal shower, bachelorette party, gifts, and finally the wedding, you’ll typically get months in between each event to prepare financially for the next.
Plus, talking to the other bridesmaids and the Mom of the bride will help keep the price of the parties in check and having a conversation with the bride about her expectations and budget for your dress, getting nails/hair done, etc. is also important.
2. Every bride is different.
For better or for worse, a wedding brings out different things in each and every girl. It’s a stressful time, but that’s why you’re there to help your girlfriend out.
I’ve always thought of it this way: a wedding is causing a girl who probably isn’t an event planner (save for the most recent wedding I was in!) to be an event planner for one of the biggest days of her life. She’s got friends and family who all have different opinions pulling her in opposite directions. Of course she’s going to be stressed out. That’s your job as a bridesmaid, though: destress and help a girl out to have a beautiful day that’s all about her and her new hubby.
3. You’ll get to have even more awesome girlfriends!
Not only will you have lots of times getting closer to the bride, but you’ll also have lots of time getting to know her other friends (if you don’t know them already!) Every wedding I’ve been in, I’ve walked away with more friends by getting to know the other bridesmaids.
And if you don’t necessarily get along with everyone, that’s ok! Just remember that communication is always the best route.
4. You get the big job of making the big day all about your girlfriend.
Like I said, your biggest job is the bride. Unfortunately, many family members and friends have a way of making weddings about themselves and their wants/needs.
The bonus for you? Of course you’ll want your friend to be the center of attention. This is her day; just like you got or will someday have your day.
5. Being a bridesmaid comes with duties you may not have signed on for.
I’ve been web designer, graphic designer, dress shopper, party planner, drinking buddy, and bouncer as a bridesmaid. And you know what? They’re all pretty awesome jobs. Plus, one day your girl gets to repay you 😉
6. Wear waterproof mascara.
Since you’ll probably cry at the wedding, waterproof mascara is a must. Plain and simple.
7. Don’t look at the groom.
Unless you are looking to ball your eyes out.
Seriously, though. Especially if he’s crying and then it’s really all over.
8. The actual wedding weekend is a mini-vacation.
As a bridesmaid you’ll get to enjoy all sorts of fun girl time: from getting your nails done to getting your hair and makeup done to getting all dolled up. Plus, you might enjoy a fun and new getaway.
9. You have two jobs the day of the wedding.
1. Keep the bride happy. Whether it’s calming her down or getting her whatever she needs, your first job is to make the day as awesome and as stress-free as possible for the bride-to-be.
2. Help everyone at the wedding. Whether you’re helping to keep the kiddos from crying or keeping the Mother of the Groom entertained, what you’re really doing is step 1.
10. You get a front row seat.
Last but certainly not least, revel in this beautiful day, because your friend or family member just asked you to be apart – and front row – at one of the most important days of her life. And that’s pretty damn awesome.