Why We Should Stop Saying “If, When…”

I’m trying desperately to rid myself of a common thought process: using “if, when…” statements. Here are some examples:

I’ll be happy when I’m [this] successful.

I’ll be content when I lose [this] much weight.

I won’t stress anymore when I make [this] much money.

See the pattern?

I read an article years ago that still resonates with me to this day. It spoke about the delicate balance of goals and happiness. The article suggested that many of us actually don’t allow ourselves to be happy because we’re constantly looking for the next best thing, the next goal in our lives.


Many of us live in the future instead of the present.

Instead of choosing to be happy now, we tell ourselves we’ll be happy when [such and such] happens. But even when we achieve that goal, instead of finding happiness, we only replace it with a new goal.

And while goals are vital in life, we need to start appreciating the journey in between each and every one.

Do you know what happens when we don’t appreciate the journey? We set ourselves up to do just the opposite of our goal; we set ourselves up to be unhappy.

We set ourselves up to constantly be chasing goal after goal until we finally arrive in our death bed and wonder “did I even enjoy the journey?” OK, perhaps I’m being a little dramatic with that, but I refuse to allow even the slightest possibility that I’ll be thinking anything other than “damn, that was a good ride” on my dying day.

So let’s stop looking to the next thing, thinking “I’ll be happy when” to come in the future. Be happy now, enjoy the journey now, and for goodness sake, stop using “if, when…” statements. For as they say….if not now, when?

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Born/bred in MD. Raised in ME. Transplant to FL. Entrepreneur, wife, mama, writer, puppy momma, Scorpio, fitness/nutrition enthusiast, eternal optimist.
I’m a strong, passionate, intense woman who has a thirst for life, knowledge, love, and the never-ending question of the meaning of life. I figure I’m bound to find it sooner or later.

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