{"id":821,"date":"2015-03-27T03:49:00","date_gmt":"2015-03-27T03:49:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/nickiong.com\/wp\/?p=821"},"modified":"2021-04-06T03:12:09","modified_gmt":"2021-04-06T03:12:09","slug":"its-time-to-stop-blaming-others","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nickiong.com\/wp\/blog\/2015\/03\/27\/its-time-to-stop-blaming-others\/","title":{"rendered":"It\u2019s Time to Stop Blaming Others"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>I\u2019ve been thinking a lot about the blame game lately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Things happen in life and it\u2019s easy to point your finger and blame others. It was his fault\u2026or her fault. It was because of this or because of that. It was because of the government or a police officer. It was because of traffic. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Point being: it\u2019s easy to&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/nickiong.com\/wp\/blog\/2013\/03\/28\/stop-making-excuses-play-like-a-champion\/\">make excuses<\/a>&nbsp;and say&nbsp;<em>it wasn\u2019t my fault<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"900\" height=\"600\" src=\"https:\/\/nickiong.com\/app\/uploads\/2021\/03\/blame-game.jpeg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-822\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nickiong.com\/app\/uploads\/2021\/03\/blame-game.jpeg 900w, https:\/\/nickiong.com\/app\/uploads\/2021\/03\/blame-game-300x200.jpeg 300w, https:\/\/nickiong.com\/app\/uploads\/2021\/03\/blame-game-768x512.jpeg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 900px) 100vw, 900px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>When the blame falls on your shoulders, it\u2019s time to accept it.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3>End the negativity<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Blaming others, along with countless other issues, results in sitting in an endless cycle of negativity. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>While in the short term, blaming others relieves stress from your shoulders; in the longterm, it also means that you\u2019ve created a recipe for negativity in your life. You\u2019ve, in a sense, created a very bad habit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<script async=\"\" data-uid=\"3981d6929d\" src=\"https:\/\/nickiong.ck.page\/3981d6929d\/index.js\"><\/script>\n\n\n\n<h3>Take responsibility<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s hard to take responsibility and take the blame. It\u2019s hard to turn your blaming finger from someone else to yourself. But we need to. It\u2019s the first step moving to resolve any conflict or problem in your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3>Move forward<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Once you accept blame, as hard as it will be, you can start taking positive steps forward. Whatever the problem or situation, you\u2019ll be able to make changes to make things better. 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